Saturday, January 30, 2010

A Note to the Fearful

ok, here's something that i've been thinking about. many of you know that i was an extremely fearful person growing up. wow...it was quite a terrifying prison for the heart. living as if reality really was the nightmare my mind could think up. the enemy definitely took advantage of the situation too...and my life became a mix of my leaning and his attack. the journey of recovery has been a long one...a scary one...but god's love and his challenges to step out into his reality really do win in the end. he and i continue to face things to this day...and he never fails.

so, it is with great sympathy..and expertise...that i say what follows...

when a fearful and anxious person reaches an age of accountability...i don't know when that is exactly (later teen-adult...depends on the person??)...well, there's something he or she needs to know. see, we tend to require the other people in our lives to bend over backwards to help us feel safe and secure...in control. our loved ones don't want to see us in pain, so they will tend to comply. and if they are co-dependent, they will actually get life out of helping you...which is equally sad. but here's the thing...while it doesn't feel this way in the moment, what we are doing is totally unfair to EVERYONE ELSE. we are actually asking that others re-orient their lives, their loves, and their fun so that we can feel ok. there's a word for that...one that we don't like to say because it seems mean in the face of our pain...but the word is...selfishness.

i'm sorry to say...that's not ok.

so...get in the game for your heart and start stepping out of your fear. get into counselling, get meds...get real and get going!!! the others in your life deserve your freedom just as much as you do!!!

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