i don't know if you can identify. every now and then, in different circles and settings, i encounter groups of people who pretty much do everything together. i don't know if i'd go so far to say "clique", although some can be like that, but maybe "crew" fits better. a group of people who just do life together...probably have common opinions, beliefs, or gripes about things...and just are committed to their group.
not necessarily a bad thing at all. i'd guess that many of us have circles like that.
well, i run into this every now and then at work. i'm super glad that they all have each other, that they have fun together, that they have so much in common, etc. and i'm not wishing i could be a member and i'm not jealous at all...it's just that it gets awkward sometimes being around it.
not awkward because of me...but because of them.
* conversations that stop upon entering a room.
* uncomfortable "out of place" feeling at lunch tables, functions, etc.
it used to drive two of my friends insane, but i think there was a rejection deal that was a part of that. or maybe something legitimate. beats me.
it just was "awkward" again today, and i noticed it. so it just made me wonder what to do in those situations. i mean, is it bad to keep sitting there when no talking is going on because you've entered? is it wrong to try to be friends with a "crew" in a way that doesn't make them suspicious that you want "in"?
it's just that...i think it's totally ok to have things discussed and planned around people that aren't invited. in fact, the awkward silences on their part make things more bizarre than the discussion itself would. and not as a reflection of the non-crew individual at all, the awkward silences and "out of place" vibe actually make groups seem more exclusionary than a legit "you can't come" convo. you know what i mean?
hmm...just odd is all.
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oh yep...know what you mean!
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