It is simply unfathomable the number of people who, rather than stopping to notice a heart wound that needs healing and actually getting it taken care of, choose to recycle same old patterns and same old outcomes...and proceed to see it as something continuously outside themselves.
For sure...it's not ok to be repeatedly hurt. Most definitely.
BUT...an unaddressed wound...becomes the very thing that steers the ship...and ultimately becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It can direct the wounded to other unhealthy relationships, away from healthy ones or into the sabotage of healthy ones. Most definitely, wounds create grids that can make investment and assault indistinguishable. Reaction born of a defense mechanism judgment with no clarity to truly discern motives. Oh my...it's so very sad.
Every. Single. Time.
And it doesn't have to be that way!!!
For every wound there's a healing. Yes, it hurts. And yes, it can feel uncomfortable and lonely...due to the fact that wounds, though icky, can actually become a strange comfort and less-than-ideal friend...but that healing-related loneliness is temporary!! It's the path to fullness and relationship.
So...if there's a screaming wound, be willing to see it...YES, you have to be WILLING to see it!!...and then let Jesus go there with you. Why would He want anything less than an unshackled life for you? He has shalom-peace in abundance, and He's just that good!
And for those left in the wake...oh man, there's healing for you too. Yes, I'm sure there's solace in the knowledge of and communication with others who've been run down by the same ship...but there's always individual healing for you too! Take it! Most definitely take any "checks" or accusations to the cross to eliminate any contributions on your part, but then...leave it at that. Take your healing and become a prayer warrior.
Oh, those screaming wounds... :(