i am still so surprised by people that think the life of the single gal is full of huge spaces of...nothing. boy, if that's actually a possibility, i need to read that "how-to" book right now. i feel like "down time" is evasive lately...i literally haven't had a break in a zillion ages. my days feel like i'm going from obligation to obligation with very little time for play....and i need "play".
boundaries, though, right?? that's the advice i keep hearing. i do have some boundaries in place. more than i've ever had, in fact...and i've had to fight for those (much to the dismay of those i've had to "disappoint"). but it's hard to know where others can go.
i'm working a 1.5ish this year, so clearly that's something i can't cut back but also explains the greater load. taking care of a house as a single home owner isn't exactly something i can cut back either. (gosh, do i envy couples regarding home care...cleaning, laundry, yard work, etc. shared with others.) there are the other commitments too...sermon prep, worship team, bible studies, community events, projects of my own, etc.
i've improved in not taking on other people's projects as much. saying "no" to other people's invitations to groups, committees, events, etc. is difficult but more and more doable. it just makes me feel bad...like i should be able to juggle it all. AHHH! i can't even juggle what's on my own plate!!!
gosh, i can't wait for a change.
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You know what? I think people just tend to ask those of us who are "do-ers" in this life...and it's a good thing to be that kind of person. We're the people who get involved, who are willing to work, who give out of the love and compassion in our hearts. And it gets us into trouble sometimes, and that's what makes boundaries so important. Hope you find some balance! Play is so very, very important, too!
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