this came to me today from a long-lost friend. he was an exchange student when i was in 9th grade, and when he left, we all lost touch with him. oh...his name is hardy, by the way...and we found him on facebook and have begun the process of 'reunification'. :) if i could write an "ode to hardy hobson", i would. he was just about the most amazing person back then...despite having to deal with incredibly difficult people...and obviously he hasn't lost his love for the lord and gift for sharing god's heart with others...oh!, and humor! :)
and for all of you who may want to marry a 'package deal' trinidian guy...sorry, he's married! :)
we all face challenges every day. maybe not the same kind, maybe not even the kind that make us want to curl up in a hole somewhere...but still, it helps to have the community of heart-people. god is so awesome...to give us good friends!
so this is hardy's advice from the heart for this single gal...and i love it! and by the way...this could overflow into so many areas...unbelievable!
"the Lord knows the beginning and the end of a thing and he has allowed you through it and even brought you through. there was something valuable to be gained in it, but most of all, there is something also unto his glory...
The Lord knows your heart's desire. He wired you with all that appeals to you in a man; therefore he knows the type of man that you would love and who would love and understand you. Now, you must come to terms with your heavenly Father and ask him to send that right person into your life. He should come in the very path that God is presently leading you right now in your life. He may show up unexpectedly or he may be right there in plain sight. If someone is not sure about you, pray that God will make them sure. Call forth the things in your life that are not as though they were. Start praying and thanking God for an unknown husband, pray for him in the job/ministry/whatever he might be doing, pray for his protection, for wisdom, for strength, for God's will upon his life - all the things you would pray for him if ye had actually known him. It does not always have to be spriritual things that you talk to God about only - tell him about the physical contentions of the heart, and your mind's confusion about men and even your own self. Ask him for a Psalm 112 man and see if you actually know any that you really have the blushes for as well. If you have faith enough, list a few prerequisites (realistic ones). Also, think about the expected imperfections in him that you would be willing to live with such as bathroom habits, laundry, leaving coffee cups around, body hair, wants to have a pet gorilla etc.... then think about what you would also want him to accept about you such as, eating chocolate cake for lunch, white water rafting missions in Amazon, don't like doing the dishes at the same time while cooking, or eating with chop sticks on Sundays etc....
You'll never find the perfect man - there is none. But you will find one that you really like and so much that you are willing to put up with a few things that you don't like. Ofcourse I do not speak of alcohol and cigarettes or anything that awful. those should be on your definite no -no list.
It might even be that you might have to give up certain trivials for a good relationship, make some improvement adjustments for a good relationship. But most importantly, don't look solely at what a man does for you to impress you - that's all fine and well for courtship. Look at the smaller things, how he does it - the things he would be normally doing if ye were to be married, the ordinary things, his ordinary tone of conversation, his living philosophy, his rationalizing, his convictions, his confidence level at different areas he faces etc... All these are indicators to help you figure out whether he is yours to keep or not.
the question should not be "when am I going to meet the right one?" it shoud be: "what am I willing to accept and reject in a husband?"
Jn 15 says: If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, then you shall ask what you will, and it shall be given. In other words, when you immerse your life in God and love to eat his words and will like cake, then you would walk and talk his will and ask for it as well, because really, there's nothing better."
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