Manipulated

I don't like finding out that one of my friends is being manipulated. I have one in a situation like that right now. People in unhealthy situations tend to put descriptors on their feelings (usually blame-oriented) that aren't entirely accurate. Things they are experiencing that are more the consequence of an unhealthy action, but because of their need for the disfunction, they will only name it with titles that reinforce their unhealthiness. I find it very difficult to be sensitive to the sadness they must be experiencing...especially when it is directly manipulating someone I love. FRUSTRATING! God, give me your perspective...because I want to open a can...