Every human has "core questions". Some are general. Some are specific. Identity questions.
“We need to know who we are and if we have what it takes. What do we do now with the ultimate question? Where do we go to find an answer? In order to help you find the answer to The Question, let me ask you another: What have you done with your question? Where have you taken it? You see. a man’s core question does not go away.” John Eldredge, Wild at Heart
The problem is we tend to take our core questions to people or situations that aren't meant to answer them. We take our questions to a member of the opposite sex, to a career, to anything that can give us life really. Inevitably, we find a degree of dissatisfaction with those relationships or circumstances...because they aren't filling us the way we'd like (simply because they can't). So we find ourselves brokenhearted or center-stage in a HUGE mess.
“God requires a new set of questions: What are you trying to teach me here? What issues in my heart are you trying to raise through this? What is it you want me to see? What are you asking me to let go of?” John Eldredge, Wild at Heart
“Yes. True strength does not come out of bravado. Until we are broken, our life will be self-centered, self-reliant; our strength will be our own.” John Eldredge, Wild at Heart
“The spiritual life begins with the acceptance of our wounded self.” Brennan Manning
From that broken place...letting questions help us see struggles for what they are...we can access The Source. Yep...the questions are designed to be answered...to be filled...by God.
“A car is made to run on gasoline, and it would not run properly on anything else. Now God designed the human machine to run on himself. He himself is the fuel our spirits were designed to burn, or the food our spirits were designed to feed on. There is no other.” CS Lewis
To do otherwise is to live a life that repeats a cycle. Keeps us always focused on "greener grass" because it could never be about anything internal. We keep hoping to find our life in someone else, in the perfect job, in any addictable... But until we reach the place where we are willing to acknowledge our inner question...and stop expecting answers from anywhere else...we will live like a hamster in a wheel. Again...and again...and again...being dissatisfied...using others and situations for more than their design.
And what is the design of relationships and opportunities???...they are places we can EXPRESS our God-answered identity questions...places that can AFFIRM who we really are.
There's so much more to life!